Potato Picking at Marsh Farm Animal Adventure Park!

September 2016

When we returned on London, we were sort of expecting poor weather but it turned out that everything has been still holding up. Two weekends ago, we headed off to for potato picking at Marsh Farm Animal Adventure Park and the kids had a fabulous time!


Look at the cheeky smiles of the little ones.



One of the first pit stops that we went to was at the Bouncy Pillows. In all honesty, the children spent an inordinate amount of time bouncing and sliding with their fabulous Daddy. There are two bouncy pillows in that area- one for those above 5 and one of the the younger ones. So parents, we can be more assured that the younger ones get their share of play on these wonderful bouncing platforms. While they were having all the mad fun, I was taking pictures and chilling on the lovely seats provided in that area.

E and I always believe in bringing the children for as much outdoor play as possible because we see that these are the times when we can be more focused on them. Usually, when we are home, there is always the tendency to ‘let them play alone’, ‘turn on the television’ while we just go about doing ‘our things’ like surfing the net, replying to our Whatsapp chats or in my case, baking.






We decided to have an early lunch and grab some drinks at the Play Barn and Restaurant. You can click here to check out what they serve at the Play Barn Restaurant. We were supposed to be having a picnic but of course, I woke up late and nothing was prepared. However, the family was pleased with the choices we had at the restaurant!

Personally, I love how they have two play areas(again one for the older kids and one for the younger ones) within the eating premises. While waiting for our orders, the children were properly entertained playing with the slides, tunnels, ball pit and more! Oh yes, just a note of reminder! Please remember to bring along/wear your sock in the soft play area!










This is the Toddler Area for the younger children. So our little Megan also did go about exploring the grounds, much to her delight!



Our food came! Yay! Look at Megan’s excited face! She must be hungry after all that crawling around.



Our faithful Mustela Physiobebe for all our oudoor trips- an easier way to get the kids hands cleaned before their meals.


After lunch, we explored more of the grounds at Marsh Farm Animal Adventures. It would be such a lovely treat for the children who loves their animals. Gillian got an up-close adventure in combing the hair of the pony! Super!


Ryan and Gillian had a brilliant time at Tractor Town, where they went about pretending to be tractor drivers, washing their tractors, re-fueling their vehicles and going on pretend trips.







There was this well-built and fun playground near the tractor area. We played there for a bit and both Ryan and Gillian enjoyed many aspects of it.






The thing about Marsh Farm Animal Adventure is that they have endless of things to do throughout the day. We went for an amusing Magic and Mayhem Show at the Barn Theatre. I believe both adults and children found the in-house magician to be incredible entertaining and funny.


We also went on the Tractor and Trailer Ride! The kids have never gone for such an experience before and they were thrilled to be on this bumpy ride! The day at Marsh Farm Animal Adventure Park gave us quite a number of cool experiences to be on the farm.



Because we went to the farm during their Potato Picking Party season, we also had our maiden potato picking encounter. And so ta-dah, Ryan! Potato grows underground! 

The staff at Marsh Farm Animal Adventure Park was also very considerate in helping to bag our potatoes and showing how to go about picking those vegetables.




Maize Maze! Woohoo! First time for the family again! Initially, we were worried about entering the three acre maize maze with the children. The facilitator assuaged our worries by telling us that there would be helpers to save us should we get lost. All we needed to do was to raise our flags!

We did eventually got ourselves out safely within 30 minutes and we rewarded with bags of pop corns!








By the time we finished the maze, it was half past four and the little ones wanted to go on the bouncy castle before heading home. Off they went to bounce(again) while I got myself a slice of cake from the Play Barn Restaurant.






The last stop for us before home was the craft room, where the kids did some art work to wind down. They were so knackered by the end of the day. They slept so well that night! Hahaha!




What I liked about Marsh Farm Animal Adventure Park?

  • The entire adventure park is full of places for the little ones to run about, to have fun and explore. In fact, Marsh Farm Animal Adventure Park keep everything fresh by having events over the year such as Potato Picking Party, Easter Eggstravganza and the upcoming Wizards and Witches for Halloween.
  • The staff were friendly and considerate. Our encounters with them at Maize Maze, Potato Picking Party and the Tractor Ride were good- they showed good knowledge of the activities that they were in charge of, safety protocols and were so smiley all the time.
  • Having an indoor playground, with two separate play areas for different age groups in the restaurant is ideal for wet weather.What I thought could be better?

There were Spotter Guides that could be picked up on various locations around the farms but we did not managed to find any. Children were suppose to collect stamps in the these booklets. However, I thought the locations where they were to get the stamps were inconspicuous.


Remember to bring along your socks when visiting Marsh Farm Animal Adventure Park. The softplay in the indoor playground required socks to be worn when playing.

To purchase tickets to visit Marsh Farm Animal Adventure Park, please click on this link and it is much cheaper to purchase your tickets online! So why hesitate!


Disclaimer: We were given complimentary tickets to Marsh Farm Animal Adventure Park Opinions are of my own and I have given honest feedback and review of our experience.


Playground Politics

October 2016

In light of my what my favourite blogger(Limpeft) have shared on bullying, I thought I want to share my experience of bullying in playground. They don’t just happen to children, but parents.

(I may delete or make private this post anytime but thought I will share it for now.)


September 2015

Just over a year ago, Ryan started formal school. As parents, we were excited and happy that our eldest have reached a new milestone. Since Ryan is our first child, most of our experiences with him are as new and foreign as it gets.

For the first few weeks, Ryan came home, happy with everything in school but he did have this constant complaint of a particular child, who shall therefore be known as X. According to what I heard from my 4.5 year old, X was always pushing him(and other children). X was hitting him(and other children). Initially, I did not want to make a fuss about it since they are still young, school was a new environment to all of these kids and X’s mother was sort of an acquaintance. However, the day went Ryan came home and complained again about X spitting on him, I thought I should email the teacher and ask if there is anything I should know of and what I could do to help. Then, I was almost due to give birth to Baby Megan anytime and I wanted to settle this nagging issue as soon as possible.

The teacher requested for a meeting after school and he assured me that he knew of the situation. Ryan was neither a culprit nor a victim. The same for X. The same for a bunch of boys in school. After his explanation, I was assured of his words and understanding of the situation. Before I left school, I saw that X’s mother was a distance away(like maybe 100 meters away) but feeling annoyed at the situation, I just quickly went off to my car with Ryan.


October 2015

The day when I was due to give birth to Megan-like I was literally experiencing contractions, E sent Ryan off to school instead. E came home, telling me tat X’s father approached him outside of school, asking him to get me to apologise to X’s mother for Ryan’s behavior. E, being non-confrontational(and the fact the X’s father was sort of an acquaintance as well), just told X’s father that the women should just ‘settle their problems’.

My waterbag broke.

I was really upset. I felt indignant.

I don’t exactly think I can explain the the entire torrent of emotions that I felt. I was angry at the audacity of the request. I was upset because I thought E should have stood up for me and questioned more. I felt so annoyed and confused on how I had to be the one apologising? Why me? In any case, why not E? I mean, according to the teacher, no kid was the victim or culprit, so why was there even a need for apology? And who in the world would ask her husband to ask my husband to ask me for an apology? Are we in like some episode of Mean Girls? 


November 2015

One entire month passed with no more news of X or X’s parents as I was doing my confinement month at home. The first day after I finished my confinement month, I went on my school run with Ryan in the morning. After dropping him off at school, I started walking towards my car, only to have X’s parent shouting my name behind me.

They stopped me and insisted for me to apologise to them. At first, I was reluctant, offering to meet the next morning instead with E to talk things through. They refused to let me go. By then, E called and needed me to go home and find his passport. That day happened to be his first day at his new job. Being pressed for time and under such duress, I apologised, only to have X’s mother, telling me that my apology was ‘insincere’. (E was on the phone throughout, and even he could hear her shouting at me.)

I repeated my apology and yet, she went on shouting at me, using her mother tongue and with her husband calmly translating it for me in English. The situation may sound absurd to some of you but it did happened. I know many of you wonder why did I not want to just walk off, but X’s parents are sort of acquaintance and we see them quite often locally. Honestly, I wanted to settle this as amicably as possible.

On hindsight, I should have known it was not possible as X’s mother sounded more and more infuriated and she went on telling me that Ryan ‘hit her son’s leg 5 times'(this was questionable as both kids were only 4.5 years old then, and I usually take everything with a pinch of salt). Towards the end of the drama, X’s father has to pull his wife to cross the road so as to stop all the shouting and translation. But she ended by screaming at me, ‘You are a bad mother. You are so young but you are a bad mother.’

What she said then really broke me to some extent because sometimes, I do think I am a bad mother(unfinished household chores, not enough vegetables in meals, inattentive parenting….) but I am trying the best that I can to not suck so much at my job. They left. E told me that he found his passport and I did not need to rush back home. Then, I headed off to do my grocery shopping, with her last words of me being a bad mother ringing in my head. While shopping, I saw one of my local Mummy friends and I told her what happened in tears, in a supermarket. She did offer, wanting to mediate but I thought it was just going to be harder, unnecessary and perhaps even more traumatising.


In the evening, E came home and we drafted an email to check with Ryan’s teacher to tell him what happened in the morning and asked if there was any crucial point that we may have missed out during the earlier conversation. E’s teacher forwarded the email to the headteacher and he settled it with X’s parents swiftly in the next evening. The headteacher did give me 3 choices of- settling the matter with X’s parents on our own, or with him as a mediator or just avoid X’s parents for the next 6 years. Being me, I chose the last option.

In my opinion, the fact that X’s parents(or mother) could openly confront me in such an aggressive manner meant that she did not care much for any sort of relationship or acquaintanceship?

Since that day,  I always went to school runs in fear. Then, E and my sister took turns to accompany me on the morning school runs. I was worried that X’s parents would ‘chase after me’ again. I mean no one could know what’s in the minds of another. Can they? The fact that they could openly shout at me in public possibly meant that they might hit me as well? Fortunately, they merely look past me during school runs, and pretend that I am entirely invisible.

It was hurtful in the beginning and given my personality, I constantly asked myself if I could have handled the ‘situation’ in a better way. Inside of me, I was frustrated at the situation and I foolishly projected my anger at E and sometimes Ryan(it’s ridiculous). Having just given birth and gone through such an ugly drama, I felt depressed then. If anyone recalled, my blog posts then was quite foretelling and dark.


May 2016

Over time, with family and friends support, I managed to get this bad episode out of my system. (Earlier this year, I heard from a fellow parent that X’s mother is going around, telling other parents how I am a bad mother? To hear this just made me even more sian. *sigh* ) I shared this with my pastor and she helped me so much by praying for me and and with me. I don’t exactly know why sometimes things like that happens, but because of such agonising circumstances, I grew and I learnt to know who are the ones who were there for these dark times. I went through cycles of despair, anxiety, anger and I am thankful that God gave me such encouraging people to tide through this.

Recently, I did get some news about X’s parents and how they have been doing the same to some parents as well? This time round, apparently, the school made a stand of just handling children’ issues and not the parents’. One mother went to the police and reported X’s mother for her confrontational and aggressive behavior. Apparently, this sort of actions are known as ASB(Anti-Social Behavior). For the record, X is not being bullied. He is physically stronger and sometimes, can be hurtful to milder ones? In words, X can be insensitive as well. X’s mother is annoyingly nonchalant(and non apologetic) when it comes to her son’s forceful behavior but she gets upset when her son complains of being hurt by someone else.


As parents, we love our little ones so much that we would unflinchingly give our lives up for. But, I feel that it is just not right to go around, insisting that your child is the best and most worthy and while everyone else’s are lesser?


Maybe as parents, it would be good to model positive social behavior to our children-like to share, to not fight, to know that they are not ‘better’ than any other of their mates?


Given the same situation, would I have reacted differently then?

I would have just walked off and not subject myself to their verbal abuse. Yes. I would do that.


Question to ponder through, if a parent is a bully, would the child turn out to be one as well?

I am not sure how any of my children will turn out to be in the future. But for now, I would continue my best, to try to be a better parent, for them. Okay, off the computer for starters! Out!


Unicorn Theatre- The Owl who was Afraid of the Dark.

September 2016

This week appears to be an interesting week for me. On Thursday, I went to catch the musical, Wicked with Kimberly. On Saturday, I also attended a bloggers event at Unicorn Theatre and we caught one of the early shows of The Owl who was Afraid of the Dark. It is a play, adapted from a popular children’s book by Jill Tomlinson.

Ever since we came to London 2-ish years ago, I have only watched like maybe 4 West End productions and one musical at the National Theatre. In fact, last Saturday was the first time I brought the children to watch a play. Since we are living in London, the global cultural hub, I think I should be exposing the children more to this aspect of life and learning as well.

As a overly-anxious parent, I tend to be worried about how Ryan and Gillian would behave should they attend such events. I worry if they make too much noise, if they get bored(and start moaning) or just cause any undue distress to fellow patrons. However, after attending our first play together, I realised that my concerns could be managed and the children did have a good time watching the play.



The Owl who was Afraid of the Dark

Unicorn Theatre is a good introduction place for young audience. Being children-friendly, productions are made with the audience in mind. We watched the production- The Owl who was Afraid of the Dark and the experience was both engaging and relaxing. (You can see more photos of the production on the Facebook.) The audience were able to sit near the performance on chairs or comfortable cushions. While watching the play, children were able to interact actively with the actors . I don’t want to spoil it for anyone who intends to watch the show but, Ryan and Gillian enjoyed many aspects of the show. The duration of the show at 50 minutes was just right for children as well. While watching the show, there were no, ‘I am bored…’ and no,’I want to sleep…’ moments. To me, it means the children were positively intrigued.




After the play, some of the children went to had a swing on the structures used during the play. Ryan even managed to get a picture with Lawrence Walker, who played Plop, the barn owl. I think there are many take-aways from the play- the simpler ones would be what are some animals that come out in the night, what are constellations and the more abstract ones would be what are some of our fears and how can we overcome them.

The Owl who is Afraid of the Dark is starring from 13 September to 21 November 2016 and you can check out for more timings here before purchasing tickets.


Family Blogger Event/ Unicorn Theatre


Post show, the bloggers went for a discussion with the team at Unicorn Theatre and from what they shared, you can tell that they are passionate about the arts and how they would like to share this magical experience and vision with the young ones. The director behind the play came and explained his thought-processes as he embarked on adapting the play. Personally, I feel that the team(actors, back-stage, business) at Unicorn Theatre, they truly want to make this experience of going for plays/musicals as enriching as possible for the children and family.


On Saturdays, there are also free drop-in activities for children from 12 noon to 2pm. Some of the art activities are themed around the shows happening at Unicorn Theatrr so that children can build on their schema on what they have watched or are going to watch.

One of the things that I like about Unicorn Theatre would be their location, which is very near London Bridge Station. In that area, there is always plenty to do. In our case, we could easily make a day out with the children. Just within walking distance away, there is Jamie’s Italian, the Bourough Market which I love, Giraffe and a number of eateries. After which, there are still many family-friendly areas to explore such as Tate Modern, Design Museum, HMD Belfast… This is what E and I usually aim to do for our Saturdays- to travel, discover and live London as much as possible!

Unicorn Theatre also tries to make sure that their ticket prices are as competitively priced as possible. West End tickets can be pricey, at £80ish to £120 per pop and sometimes it is hard to justify these prices for a family day out. With Unicorn Theatre, families are allowed more affordable options but still watching great productions at the same time. In this age of increasing obsession with science, technology, engineering and math, the arts still has its place for the children’s growth and learning. In fact, like what I have mentioned earlier in my blog post, maybe it is time for me to intentionally make time for the children’s exposure in this area as well. We will definitely be looking forward to our next trip to the Unicorn Theatre!


Disclaimer: We were given tickets to watch The Owl who was Afraid of the Dark at the Unicorn Theatre. Opinions are of my own and I have given honest feedback and review of our experience.


Num Noms

September 2016

Hello guys! I am back to blogging again. For the past two weeks or so in London, I have been busy getting the kids back into the routine- school, learning, and heading to the park to enjoy the last bits of sunshine before the cold comes. On top of that, I have been dedicating parts of my relaxation time to writing and research for my writing. Like for real! I am hoping that I will keep up with the momentum.


When Ryan went off to school, I had some time with Gillian and Megan for a week or so before our eldest went off to her 3 hour nursery as well. I was quite happy that a package from Num Noms came for Gillian came in handy to entertain her.



What are Num Noms?
Basically, they are cute, scented, collectible characters. The Nums are squishy toppers that sit on top of a Nom, which are either motorized, a lip balm pot, a mini-stampers (called Stamp-Its), or erasers. There are now 5000+ mix and match combos that you can make! These adorable characters definitely appealed more to Gillian than Ryan.


What we have received?
We received the Diner Series 2 deluxe package, which consisted of 6 Nums, 2 motorised Noms and fast food tray and an adorable spatula. We got Hammy Burger, Lemony Cola, PBNJ, Haley Hotdog, Frenchie Fries and Strawberry Cream.



How can you play with it? How did Gillian play with it?
You can stack the characters on top of each other, play-pretend with it or just stop one of your Nums on the Noms and watch it run around.


What part of the Num Nom experience did Gillian like the most?
Gillian, bring only 3.5 year old, needed more assistance when we were unboxing the package. I took time to explain to her the item, to get her to smell the scent and guess what it was. Also, I facilitate the pretend-play scenario before she continued on her own.

I think she really liked the lip balm that she got in the blind bag. In fact, it is now placed in her favourite box.

Will I recommend Num Noms to someone?
Yes, especially if they are getting it for a child/someone who loves collectibles. There is a list that you can print from the Num Nom website to check off the characters that you have in your collection. I would imagine that will be very useful for the collector.

Where can Num Noms can be purchased?
Num Noms can be purchased from most to retailers like Smyths, Argos, Toy R Us or Amazon.


Disclaimer: We were given the Num Noms Diner Series 2. Opinions are of my own and I have given honest feedback and review of our experience with the product.



September 2016

Kiddylicious sent us a box of tasty snacks for Megan in May 2016. The team behind Kiddylicious are a group of professional specialists, many of whom are parents. They share similar concerns with us, on the importance of  introducing healthy tasty food to the young one Kiddylicious is one of the leading baby and toddler snack providers in the UK. It is also a firm favourite with parents and little ones in the UK and is now available in many countries around the world, including Singapore.

We only got about doing this blog post in September as we were busy trying out all these delicious baby food that are suitable for Megan at various milestones. Here are our throwback pictures of when we first received these yums! A special little one looks real chuffed!



Kiddylicious Wafers

Fast forward 4 months, here we have 10 months old Megan. One of our snacks from Kiddylicious would be the rice Wafers. It is of a good size for her tiny hands and is a must have in our diaper bag when we head out. As Baby Megan is still teething, having these nibbles help to comfort her sore gums. As tested by myself, I found that the wafer dissolves easily when combined with saliva.

There are three flavours available- carrot, banana and blueberry. Baby Megan do not have a preference for any. She seem to like all!




Kiddylicous Fruity Puffs

Once Baby Megan turned 7 months, she tried fruity puffs and she took to it quickly. Unlike the wafer which was easier to hold, the fruity puffs were smaller in size and would need a ‘pincer grip’.

Megan’s favourite is the blueberry puffs. Her elder sister, Gillian also is a fan of these puffs. A packet like this will only last one session as Gillian gobbles the rest of the puffs real quickly! Just like the rest of Kiddylicious products, the fruity puffs are gluten-free, they have no added sugar and contains no artificial additives. Absolutely safe for our young ones.

(The blue bag you see in the picture is where I usually put one packet of snack for Megan along with a few of her toys. That is our ‘busy bag ‘ to occupy for Megan when we head out.)


Gillian loves the fruity puffs too! Kiddylicious products are suitable for young children and adults as well!




Once yur baby turn 1 year, there will be a whole lot more of products that your baby can try. So far, as Megan is only 10 months, we have only tried two of the Kiddylicious products that are suitable for 12 months and above.

One of the products that I would like to highlight would be the fruit crisps. They are fruits(apples, bananas and pineapples) which are sliced into bite-sized pieces and then made into these melt-in-your-mouth snacks. Since Megan is still abit too young for this snack, I will just make the pieces smaller before feeding her some. So far, we have only tried the banana crips and they taste just fabulous. In fact, I am thinking of putting some of these in Ryan’s school lunchbox.


We have also tried the smoothie melts. Just like the fruit crisps, I will make it into smaller pieces before feeding Baby Megan. I think this will not be necessary when she turns 1 in October. The smoothie melts is a hit with Megan, she keeps asking for more. Usually, I will put a few small pieces in her baby bowl to let her self-feed. The bowl is always empty real quickly!



In fact, there are a few more snacks that I have received in the parcel but have not gone about trying it as they are suitable for babies who are 12 months and above! I will definitely be doing a second post on these Kiddylicious delights in a few months time!

In the meantime, do consider to check out these baby snacks for your little ones.

For those residing in Singapore, you can purchase these Kiddylicious products from Posh Baby. Here’s the link to their Facebook page so you can check out for more updates or upcoming deals.

For UK readers, you can find Kiddylicious products in most major supermarkets- Waitrose, Asda, Tesco, Morrisons, Ocado and Sainsbury. You can also shop at their online store!



Mustela STELATOPIA and Eczema

August 2016


Mustela would be one of my favourite brands to introduce to any new Mummy friends. For the past 5 years, it has been a staple in our family and you will always see these white and blue bottles in our bathroom. There is this unique smell of Mustela that Mummies love on there babies, which I subconsciously associate with a freshly cleaned baby, who is just cooing and smiling at me.


Baby Megan’s Skin Condition

In fact, I have dedicated two lengthy blog posts(Mustela Bebe, Mustela Bebe 2)  on Mustela products before. But there is something new that I would like to share- Mustela Stelatopia, which is a range of skincare that Mustela came with up with for babies or adults who have eczema.

Among my children, Ryan has the best skin. He is usually fair(because of the lack of sun in London) and his skin is so supple and soft. He rarely has any sort of skin irritation. Gillian, on the other hand, has pretty dry skin but it is still manageable. We just need to slather lots of cream for her before she sleeps at night. Baby Megan, who is my youngest, has eczema, which is a medical condition where patches of skin becomes rough and inflamed with blisters which cause itching and bleeding.



(I must apologise if these photos look unpleasant but I needed to share how eczema affects young babies. This happened to Megan when I tried organic coconut oil on her. Obviously, her skin did not react well to it. While it may work wonders for many, it was not suitable for her.)

Ryan and Gillian had this eczema condition when they were really young but they went off just as quickly. With Baby Megan, it seems to be more persistent and heart breaking. There are mornings when we wake up finding spots of blood on the bed, near her head area because she has been scratching through the night. When Baby Megan gets upset(because she does not see me), she will end up crying and scratching herself. This further aggravates the her eczema-prone skin. Inevitably, there are occasions where she scratched off the top layer of her skin. This probably sound unimaginable and unfathomable to some of you but babies with this eczema condition have it hard as they are so young and are unable to control their scratching strength.


What we found out about Eczema

Given Megan’s condition, it is only natural that her GPs took note of it and she was referred to the dermatologists in London. On both occasions, they gave her topical steroids and moisturisers(which main ingredients are usually paraffin). Usually, after any steroids, Megan’s eczema will slowly go off and it usually takes about 3 weeks because her skin clears.

The thing is that this is the first time I am encountering such serious eczema in babies and I am learning every step of this journey and here are what I have understood:

  • Eczema is a very painful condition. One of my doctors who suffers from eczema told me that the itch that comes with eczema is way more awful than a mosquito bite. As an adult with understanding of the condition, it would be more possible to control. However, babies would be going through so much more pain.
  • Steroids. I know there are a number of well-meaning people who tell me that steroid is bad for the skin as it thins it. I know this as well and have listened to many advice- to choose alternative skin care products like organic coconut oil and organic extra-virgin olive oil. The thing is that when I stop the topical steroids and commit myself to these alternative choices, it will only make sense if I persist on the trials for at least 3-4 weeks. By then, Baby Megan’s skin would have worsened because the other options did not work out and the doctors have to prescribe a stronger steroid to treat the skin.
  • For both consultations with the dermatologists, they are assured me repeatedly that the steroids are okay to be used to treat the eczema. Yes, steroid will thin the skin when used over a long period of time- but this will only happen on good skin. So, once the eczema goes off and the good skin appears, the treatment of steroids will stop as well. So yes to steroids for treating the eczema. It is akin to having to take antibiotics to cure a bacterial infection in the body.
  • If possible, dress the baby who has eczema condition in cotton clothes. If the mother is nursing, it would be also beneficial to wear cotton clothes since the baby’s skin will be in frequent contact with the mother.


How did  Mustela Stelatopia come into our lives…


Here comes my main point on Mustela Stelatopia Lipid-Replenishing Balm. Because of Megan’s skin condition, I signed up with Mustela UK to be on their testing team for Mustela Stelatopia.

I have been using it for at least 2 months consistently. On occasions when Baby Megan’s skin flares up, I will apply the steroid first and wait for 15 minutes before I put on the  lipid-replenishing balm. You can do it the other way as well- lipid replenishing balm first, wait for 15 minutes and then the steroids to be applied. It sounds very troublesome but parents with children suffering from eczema will eventually get used to this routine. On a daily basis, I definitely spend between 45 minutes to 1 hour just moisturising my children. Sometimes, it can be a chore but just like most thing in life, I can see that my children enjoy this daily massage experience with me. As they get older and more independent, they will be learning to do it themselves. For now, I am happy to be having these moments of servitude.

The Stelatopia range with Mustela is solely manufactured with babies and adults with the eczema condition. I find it comforting to know that a big brand like Mustela knows the needs of the market and they are researching on the best products to launch to help their consumers. Here are some reasons why I like it:

  • The range is made exclusively for eczema skin and is baby-friendly. In fact, there was a clinical study done on it.
  • The Mustela Stelatopia Lipid-Replenishing Balm is easy to apply and it seems to absorb easily into the skin without that ‘icky’ feeling.
  • The texture is rich and creamy. Whenever Megan starts scratching, I will apply the balm on her and it seems to ease her itching.
  • I think the one tube of the balm is able to last relatively long. We use it everyday, after everyday nappy change, which amounts to 7-8 times a day on Baby Megan’s body and we are still at our first tube. (Yes, if it would be good to moisturise the skin as frequent as possible, given Baby Megan’s skin condition.)


Do check our video with Mustela where I share more about our journey with eczema. I was surprised that Mustela Singapore had us on the video. Baby Megan’s skin was much better then, no bleeding or open wounds but still there are some redness on her face, and ankles. It touches me to know because Mustela acknowledges that there are some babies may have this eczema skin condition and they are still perfect to be on a corporate video. (Well, they could be using a baby with great skin, promoting the same product.)

Okay…okay, maybe I am very ’emo’ about this but it can be quite hurting(even though I just laugh it off) when Megan and I get insensitive comments from people about her skin condition. (Erhm… but I don’t think Megan takes offence since she is still a baby.) Objectively, when her skin flares up, it can be uncomfortable to look at. Ohwell…So in this light, I am so thankful that the Mustela understand that treating eczema is going to be a journey and products are develop to to ease the discomfort as much as possible.


Disclaimer: We were given two tubes of Mustela Stelatopia(one from Mustela UK and one from Mustela Sg). Opinions are of my own and I have given honest feedback and review of our experience with the product.


‘You are talking too softly, Mummy…’

August 2016

Last November, Ryan failed his hearing test in school. It was only then when E and I started noticing how Ryan often needed us to repeat instructions and how he always complained that I talked too softly (Anyone who knows me, soft spoken is rarely a trait used to describe me). Thereafter, we went for two hearing tests in the UK with the audiologists and the latest one was in July 2016. By then, the audiologists confirmed that his hearing was still flat(25 percent of a normal child) and required grommets in his ears. The specialist informed us that it would be a day surgery and fairly uncomplicated.

By then, I was anxious about his condition, hoping that his hearing would just miraculously improve. I noticed how his response was slower in sports and activities. While the difference may be minute, the major concern was that his hearing may deteriorate over time and this may impact his learning.


When we got to Singapore, my mother advised that I should bring Ryan to the polyclinic to seek for a second opinion and perhaps there could be a treatment to remove the ear wax. We saw the GP at the polyclinic and he referred us to see a ENT pediatric specialist at KKH. The initial appointment was in October, which was not possible for us as we would have returned to London. Fortunately, when I called KKH to ask for an earlier slot, the nurse managed to get one for me on the 5th of August.

For our appointment on the 5th of August, the doctor removed the ear wax from Ryan’s ear with a micro suction. Thereafter, he went for another hearing test and this time round, it seemed that his hearing remains the same, still rather flat. The doctor confirmed that Ryan’s hearing was considered mild-moderate. When asked if Ryan suffered from speech delay, he was surprised that Ryan’s speech was okay. Still, he advised two procedures for Ryan to improve his hearing since Ryan is still young and hearing is essential for his learning. The first procedure being, removing his tonsils and adenoids. Ryan’s tonsils looked large, which is causing him to snore. Snoring may lead to fluid building up in the middle ear and affect hearing. The second procedure is what the UK specialist advised as well- to put grommets in Ryan’s ear. Grommets are small plastic tubes instilled in the ear drums and they allow air into the middle ear which reduces the risk of fluid building up.

With these information, I decided to book a surgery date first and thankfully, the team at KKH managed to get a slot for Ryan on the 16th of August. That was the best timing for us as we were due to return to London in September. This would give us sufficient time to recuperate and go for a review with the doctor. Despite having the surgery date, I was feeling nervous and hesitant about the surgery when I got home. As E would not be back in time for Ryan’s operation, it meant that I had to be the lone parent, accompanying Ryan and we had to stay overnight as well. It possibly sound easy to some of you but there was the consideration of Ryan’s recovery(and how he had to avoid water after the operation. He loves swimming! :() and the logistics for Baby Megan who is very attached to me. The operation sounded invasive. When I explained to Ryan the entire procedure, he was in tears!

Just when I wanted to back out of the operation, the doctor at KKH called me to check on Ryan and I voiced out my concerns. He repeatedly told me that he stood by his opinion and I should not worry unduly about the recovery. I talked to some of my mummy friends and they also shared on how they would have done in my shoes. It also helped that my sister-in-law is in the insurance line and she told me that the removal of tonsils is common operation, even for kids. Somehow, I managed to pluck up the courage and made the decision to go ahead with the surgery. There is this nagging feeling in me that his hearing condition might worsen without operation and I did not want his poor hearing to be an excuse for his behavior and learning. The plus points of getting the operation done in Singapore would be how my family could help me with the girls while I head off the the hospital with Ryan.


The day of the operation arrived and we cabbed to KKH. Ryan was to be admitted at 7 in the morning and his operation was the first that day. I was feeling all right all the way, just abit jittery but between Ryan and myself, I need to be the adult and behave in a calm and composed manner even when I felt a lump at the back of throat when we were getting ready to go to the OT.


Ryan is a great kid. I don’t usually praise him but he is really good. Prior to the surgery day, he started off being teary and reluctant about undergoing the procedures. However, things took a turn for the better. The week when he was due for operation, he behaved well and on the day of the surgery, he sounded so sensible about the operation. (Sometimes I feel so bad that I don’t spend enough ‘alone’ time with him and the one day of being alone with him was the trip to the hospital. *sigh*)

Ryan was given anaesthetic gas when we were in the OT. He was restrained by me and the doctor while he was taking in the gas. Halfway, he started struggling and yet, we had to continue to hold me. He then gave me the look of betrayal before closing his eyes. It sounds very dramatic but I think that moment, I really wanted to cry but I suppose crying is not very productive. I left the OT with Ryan in it, feeling very, very heart-broken and alone. I sat outside the OT.

With 3 kids and sometimes, they get ill and hospitalised, I am not sure how other parents cope but I find it easier when I emotionally detach myself from the condition and the treatments that they have to undergo. My heart aches and I do want to indulge in crying but I have responsibilities towards the other two children, so maybe crying have to wait. Not today, or any day for now. I highly doubt the 25 year old me would be able to deal with any of what I go through these days. Such experiences are painful and sometimes, they harden me, both in good and bad ways.


Ryan’s operation was done in 2.5 hours. The surgeon told me that he removed Ryan’s tonsils and was able to vacuum out the fluids in Ryan’s middle ear. The liquid removed was unlike water form, and thicker and similar to mucus. The doctor also mentioned that it was good that Ryan removed the fluid in the middle ear as any build up would cause him to lose more hearing.

I met Ryan in the recovery, bawling, with a nurse restraining him. His tonsils were removed and I imagine it was immensely painful and traumatic experience for anyone, what more a 5 year old boy. He was complaining of great discomfort in his throat and could not speak properly. He kept coughing between crying. The nurses had to give him some drug to calm him down and he slept while he was pushed to the ward.



The entire afternoon in the ward passed quickly- alternating with Ryan sleeping, and eating/drinking and crying. My family came down to visit him in the evening and Kimberly(major love!) kindly offered to take care of Ryan in the night while I went home to care for Megan. By 10 the next morning, the doctor was happy with Ryan’s progress and he could be discharged.


Today marks Day 3 since his surgery and he seem to be happy, requiring painkillers at least twice a day before he eats. We will be returning to KKH for a review next week. *Fingers crossed!*

Somehow, I think everything happens for a reason and this episode just reminds me to trust in God and his plans. It is very timely how Ryan’s latest Bible memory verse is from Proverbs 3:1- Trust in the Lord with All your Heart.

I cannot feel more thankful that Ryan is recovering well and how my family have been very supportive during this trying time. Praise the Lord!